Six weeks ago, I changed my Grindr status to “Instead of ‘hey’, feel free to start by telling me something interesting about yourself!”
I got, shall we say, a variety of responses.
Some of them shared a little
Some of them shared a lot
Some of them were educational
Some of them wanted to get the icebreaker out of the way
Some of them diversified their portfolio
Some of them seem like we would be friends
Some of them went to Oberlin
Some of them could write a great blog
Some of them got meta
Some of them were having a stroke
Some of them taught me about my own shortcomings
Some of them have busy Christmases
Some of them needed a hug and hot cocoa
Some of them spoke in intriguing metaphors
Some of them had MBAs
Some of them sent dick pics
Some of them did better on their second attempt
Some of them required follow-ups
Some of them misunderstood the assignment
Some of them would have made fascinating conversation partners
Some of them humblebragged
Some of them gave good backstory
Some of them confirmed negative stereotypes
Some of them read their horoscope every morning
One of them, at least, was husband material
Neat experiment. How many of them were as interesting in person as they were when auditioning?
In my tinder bio I have “tell me the most ridiculous thing you’ve done” and I’ve gotten a whole RANGE of stories from drunken stupor to incredible feats. It’s so much better than “Hey.” Dating app follies have made some great blog posts for me too!
I love this.
I’ve been having trouble getting past the ‘hey’s’. Mybe if I decide to try online dating again I’ll try this instead!
I tried this on Tinder and all I get is “lol what do u want to know” or “I’m 28 I have three little girls” or “hey.” I’m jealous!